Saturday, February 16, 2008

disengaged II

What the hell am I going to do with my engagement ring setting?

I dislodged the rock from the thing a few weeks ago so as to give it back to my sister-in-law, who donated it to the cause of my engagement when I first became betrothed to the Ex six years ago. I am still no closer to knowing what to do with the setting.

It's platinum, diamond encrusted, and gorgeous, so definitely worth something. The only thing is -- is it infused with bad ju-ju, being the by-product of a failed engagement?

When I called off my engagement 2 years ago I felt so ashamed. I felt that I must be the only woman in the world who would ever do such a thing. I felt like the only fairy tale reader who'd ever had the misfortune to end up with a bogus ending. But as I began to open up to people and tell them, "I broke off my engagement, things aren't working out, this relationships is over," friends, co-workers, even family members came out of the woodwork to me to tell me that they, too, had broken off engagements. I realized: broken engagements? Not so uncommon. It's just not the kind of thing that polite people usually talk about.

I wish I could call all of those people up right now and ask them: what did they do with their rings/settings/vestiges of engagement unfufilled?

Right now mine is sitting on a pile of junk mail on my desk, directly on top of a postcard imploring me to join Equinox Fitness Clubs, which is something I will never do.

Well, there it is.


Red said...


Also, love the blog.


Anonymous said...

Seriously, what is with Equinox? I swear I get one flyer a week from them.