Wednesday, August 06, 2008


The other day I was chatting with a friend at work who recently realized that he is a serial monogamist. And during the conversation, I realized that I, too, am a serial monogamist.

It didn't start off this way. I dated a string of boys in high school and college but there was usually some space between each relationship. And there was a long-seeming dry spell between my break-up with this guy (now a famous actor) and the guy who later became the Ex.

The Ex and I were together for 5 years and engaged for 3 1/2 of them. Our relationship was so broken when we finally broke up I think I was the only one we knew who was surprised its demise. And I had my very first date with the Mathematician the day after I told the Ex, once and for all, "it's over."

All of this ads up to the simple fact that, for the last decade at least, I've had a significant other. Someone else to worry about, someone else to plan my life around...someone else to worry about me. And when I scale back and think about the question of solitude, owing the fact that I have a twin brother I realize: I've never really been alone.

Is this a good thing? Or a bad thing?


Anonymous said...

kitty, hi

i know this is unrelated to this post but i was just wondering, what color processes do you really get?

full color?
full foils?
partial foils?

im curios

Kitty said...

Happy to let you know!

I have naturally light brown hair, so it doesn't take too much processing to get it blonde. I see Jason at Escape Salon in the South End for partial foils.

Until I recently cut my hair short, we were able to just foil the crown & top of my hair, but next time I go I think we need to bleach the short bottom pieces, as you can see the natural hue of my hair in the back and it looks a little 2-tone.

Once, back when my hair was nearly platinum, Jason put in some lowlights because we were concerned it was starting to look a little too bright. I freaked out and made him lighten it back up 2 weeks later.